5 Tips To Allow Ourselves Thrive

Chakra clearing with knight and bridge

We may know what we want in life but on some level are holding ourselves back from really thriving.

From my own journey and learning to thrive, I have discovered many ways that help in this process.

1    Not being afraid to express our feelings and wants from our heart is a great place to start our journey to thriving.  This allows direct access to our soul and when we speak from here, we are honouring our own inner voice.

If we get judged remember it’s the other person’s opinion and we really can’t change someone else’s opinion!  It can be hard to do this sometimes but the consequence of not speaking our mind can cause many things; a blocked throat chakra, being passive aggressive rather than being assertive and not honouring our own inner truth.

2   Following on from judgements, be open-minded and prepared to at least look at an alternative way to do something.  If we stay closed and set in our ways, we may lose out on opportunities to better ourselves and may miss out learning more effective ways to do things.

When we look through a different lens we get a different picture.  If our lens is clouded over with false beliefs or limiting closed mind views we get a distorted view of our life.

3   Staying focused on our inner truths and core values and, making sure we are working and making our decisions from this place is a sure way to success in thriving in our lives.

When we steer away from our core values we are not working in alignment with our true north, our inner compass or our gut instinct. We will then not be able to thrive in the way we really want to.

4  Learning to work with our emotions and not against them helps us to thrive in so many ways. See my last blog post on this here.  Each of the emotions has a gem to guide us to where we want to go.

Emotional intelligence is something we can all learn, in my opinion starting to become aware of our emotions is a good start.

5  Knowing ourselves, our strengths, our weaknesses and our own uniqueness is essential.  When we work with our strengths, work on our weaknesses (if we so desire!) and be truly ourselves, we become our own unique self, standing in our own power and being  the very best we can be.

You can take a 7 week on-line journey with me where we go in-depth with each of the awareness centres of our energy system; the chakras.  We ask the questions and find our own answers as to what stops us thriving and living the life we desire.  Click here for more details.

Until next time .. keep the faith, Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Owner of IrishHealthHour, Author, Chakra Course Creator, Energy Worker and Essential Oil Lover


Don’t Take It Personally … 5 Tips To Help Us Cope!

In the wonderful inspiring book The Fifth Agreement Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz give a wonderful explanation of the importance of why it is good not to take things personally.

However there are times when we get off centre with this practice, well I know I do!!

The emotional labyrinth of life can have us stuck in the lost lagoon at times, where we feel a little lost and alone.   We may need to take time out and re access where we are and what we are doing.   Or we may find ourselves in the centre of the sea of sharks where at each point there is someone waiting to bite at our toes.   Maybe we are stuck here because we are standing up for something that we believe in and our views are shaking the core of other’s beliefs. Or we might be blissfully happy in the island of love, a great place to be but one that we need not stay stuck in either.    We need our emotions and feelings and different states to keep us moving.   Our feelings and emotions fuel our actions and where we are, in any particular moment will be triggered as such.

We can be having a sad day when memories of lost loved ones are embedded in our minds and from such a place a perfectly harmless (or not!) remark from another can have us in floods of tears.   Why?  One reason may be that our boundaries are down, we are not feeling grounded and therefore we are wide open to pick up the projections of others.

1 Keep moving.   No matter where we find ourselves, it is good to be there mindfully.   We do not want to get stuck in any particular state we want to take stock and then move on.   When we stay mindful to our moods and emotions we can learn what our body needs.  If we are stuck in sadness we may need to let something go.  When we are stuck in fear we may need to focus on what is frightening us.    When we are in a loop of anger we may need to put up some boundaries.   When we are mindful of where we are we are less likely to allow what others say to us hurt or offend.   We know where we are and we may have accepted that we need to stay here a while mindfully before moving on.

2  Protecting ourselves energetically.  When our guard is down and we are walking aimlessly and mindlessly through our days we are more likely to be affected by the opinions and projections of others.  So protection is important and we can do this in any way we want to.  We can visualise ourselves in a protective bubble where the harsh words of others can linger on the outside of our bubble and not affect us.   Eventually they will dissipate.  We always allow the good in, but with our intention we ask the negative to stay outside.

3 Grounding.   When we are grounded whether that be to the earth or the stars we bring ourselves into the present moment and are able to deal with whatever life throws at us in a more balanced way.   We may be better able to laugh things off or understand and intrepret messages better.  When we ground to the earth we can imagine ourselves like a tree with our roots firmly in the ground below, swaying with the howling winds but finding ourselves able to stand our ground and come back to centre.

4 Take it personally sometimes!!!!!  And what I mean by this is sometimes what someone is telling us is guiding us out of the lost lagoon or away from the sea of sharks.  Sometimes we take it personally because we are looking at a deception, one that we may have made ourselves.   This is nothing to be ashamed of, we can often live in a deception around a story where we only look at one side and fail to see the other.  Perhaps we are not aware of all the facts around the story and we have formed our own interpretation!!!    Sometimes the other person may give us a nugget of gold if we are brave enough to accept it!

5 Smile and be brave.  Even on the days when we are feeling vulnerable we can force a smile and allow a little light in.    Our brain can be fooled quite easily into thinking we are in a good mood .. that is why visualising ourselves in our favourite place happy works! .. so smile, be vulnerable and allow the world to smile and be brave and vulnernable with us!    And yes vulnerable and brave can be in the same sentence, in my opinion for, to be vulnerable you gotta be brave 🙂

Until next time …

Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Author, Soul Care Practitioner, Assertive and Empowerrment Coach and a vulnerable person at times who takes things personally!!!!