5 Tips To Allow Ourselves Thrive

Chakra clearing with knight and bridge

We may know what we want in life but on some level are holding ourselves back from really thriving.

From my own journey and learning to thrive, I have discovered many ways that help in this process.

1    Not being afraid to express our feelings and wants from our heart is a great place to start our journey to thriving.  This allows direct access to our soul and when we speak from here, we are honouring our own inner voice.

If we get judged remember it’s the other person’s opinion and we really can’t change someone else’s opinion!  It can be hard to do this sometimes but the consequence of not speaking our mind can cause many things; a blocked throat chakra, being passive aggressive rather than being assertive and not honouring our own inner truth.

2   Following on from judgements, be open-minded and prepared to at least look at an alternative way to do something.  If we stay closed and set in our ways, we may lose out on opportunities to better ourselves and may miss out learning more effective ways to do things.

When we look through a different lens we get a different picture.  If our lens is clouded over with false beliefs or limiting closed mind views we get a distorted view of our life.

3   Staying focused on our inner truths and core values and, making sure we are working and making our decisions from this place is a sure way to success in thriving in our lives.

When we steer away from our core values we are not working in alignment with our true north, our inner compass or our gut instinct. We will then not be able to thrive in the way we really want to.

4  Learning to work with our emotions and not against them helps us to thrive in so many ways. See my last blog post on this here.  Each of the emotions has a gem to guide us to where we want to go.

Emotional intelligence is something we can all learn, in my opinion starting to become aware of our emotions is a good start.

5  Knowing ourselves, our strengths, our weaknesses and our own uniqueness is essential.  When we work with our strengths, work on our weaknesses (if we so desire!) and be truly ourselves, we become our own unique self, standing in our own power and being  the very best we can be.

You can take a 7 week on-line journey with me where we go in-depth with each of the awareness centres of our energy system; the chakras.  We ask the questions and find our own answers as to what stops us thriving and living the life we desire.  Click here for more details.

Until next time .. keep the faith, Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Owner of IrishHealthHour, Author, Chakra Course Creator, Energy Worker and Essential Oil Lover


5 Things that Stop Us Standing In Our Power & How To Change Them

We often don’t allow ourselves step into our power.   Allow might seem a strange word for me to use but at the end of the day the choice is always ours.   We can find ourselves in situations which we cannot change and have no power over, but we always have power over our mindset. And we always have a choice with our mindset! It is our very own hard wiring software that runs the show and is made up from stories formed by our experiences to date, possibly some inherited traits from ancestral heritage and how we perceive the world around us.

When we want to step more into our power the chakra or energy centre that governs this awareness, for the most part, is the solar plexus.   Just like our stomach metabolises our food to give us energy to do what we want to do, so too does our solar plexus metabolise our thoughts and emotions which fuel our actions.

So here are ways to truly begin the journey of stepping into our power.

  • 1 Feelings of not having the right to have.

The way we view ourselves around our basic right to have what we need and to have our basic needs met has a huge impact on the very foundations of our life.   We may feel like we did not have our basic needs met and past experiences may have re-enforced this.

While there are some things we just cannot change about our circumstances, we can change our mindset to one of being entitled to have our basic needs met.

Becoming mindful and quietening the mind can be a huge first step in this process.   We can start by closing our eyes, concentrating on our breath and allowing ourselves to just be.     In this moment we can allow our mind to start visioning what we feel we need in order to have our basic needs met. It is a simple exercise but can be a life changing one.

  • 2 Feeling not good enough.

How we feel about ourselves can be made up of lots of different stories, which have been formed in our mind by our experiences to date; what society tells us we should be like or should do.

How we digest all these stories has a huge effect on our mindset.   If we find ourselves stuck in a story that we want to change we can use this exercise.

Get a pen and paper, yes a pen and paper and not a computer or any other electrical device.   When we write we access our very essence, the authentic part that knows deep down that we are good enough.

Writing down a story that we are struggling with is a great tool. Circle the emotions that come up.   We can ask ourselves what are these emotions trying to tell us?

  • 3 An emotion arises that stops us in our tracks.

Our emotions are wonderful pieces of energy that direct us exactly to what we need to do.   Yes we can actually thank our emotions even the ones we call “negative”.   Our rages and our extreme sadness can bring us to the core of what it is we need to change in our life and step into our power.

Using a tool like Emotional Freedom Technique is a wonderful way to remove the charge of any emotion that seems to be causing a result we don’t want to keep having.

Remembering that emotions are just energy in motion is always a good thing.   We are not our emotions, they are merely pieces of energy and we have the power to tame them and turn them into powerful magnetising pieces of energy.

  • 4 Afraid to be seen in case it upsets others.

In her poem “Our greatest fear” by Marianne Williamson one of the lines says, “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you”.

We all know the saying that what others say about us is a reflection of them and not actually a truth about us.   When we allow ourselves to shine and be seen we trigger stories in others, but that is their story not ours. We don’t have control over the mindset of others; we only have control over our own!

If we allow ourselves stay small so as not to upset someone we are giving our personal power away.   We can change our mindset to one of being an inspiration to others remembering that when we hold an intention that is where our energy will flow.

  • 5 Not allowing ourselves to receive recognition.

Subconsciously we can block ourselves from receiving what would otherwise allow us step into our power.   Old stories from our past may have caused us to put up defence mechanisms to block others from hurting us but instead of protecting us, at times they actually block us.   When we close down our wonderful heart centre we block ourselves from receiving all that we truly deserve in order to step into our own personal power.

For more information on working with me or to purchase my self-study on line chakra course contact me here.

Until next time …. Keep the faith,

Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Author, Assertive and Empowerment Coach, Energy Therapist and Soul Care Practitioner


bebetter Chakra Teas from Solaris

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I See ….. Third Eye Chakra

“Our self perception is the way we see our inner and outer worlds, the ability to see and reach into the future being key to self realisation and our vision of life”.   Solaris Tea

The Chakras

When it comes to tools to help us balance our chakras I am always interested!!!   I have just finished writing an eight lesson self study course on the chakras in which I use meditation and essential oils as tools to empower us remove energy blocks like emotions and limiting beliefs from our chakras.  When we do this we are in alignment with our personal goals in an authentic way to ourselves.

We are made from energy and energy is processed in different awareness centres in our body called chakras. Each of the seven major chakras governs a different type of awareness.   Our second chakra is our emotional and creative realm; our third chakra is our power center; our fifth chakra is our communication center etc.

We can work with these centers in many ways and one of the ways we can bring about balance is by using foods and drinks that enhance the energy here.

Use of Herbs

The use of medicinal herbs goes back to the beginning of time.   Herbs are medicine from nature’s own medicine cabinet and many of the common herbs we find growing in our garden, some of which we may consider weeds, were the medicine of our ancestors.

Herbs are spoken about in all of the major mythologies, for example we are told that Achilles used Yarrow to heal the wounds of his soldiers on the battlefield!

So when I got the opportunity to try a sample box of chakra teas, whose ingredients were chosen to match the energy of the chakras I was thrilled to say the least!

I choose the tea blended for the sixth chakra, also known as the third eye.

Solaris Tea

The background of how these Solaris range of teas came about is a wonderful fusion of Yoga and Herbal Medicine.   Yoga is well known to bring balance to those who practice it.

Kerstin Linnartz, founder of be better and a passionate Yogini since 1996, has studied ancient Indian science in the US, Europe and India and has lived in India for many years.

Solaris Tea is a family business based in Ireland specialising in blending internationally award-winning teas and herbal infusions. Solaris ensure that all teas are produced to the highest level of sustainability and quality. All blends are free from added aromas. Jörg Müller, a former elite gymnast, has a degree in Herbal Medicine (BScHons) and has been living in Ireland for the last 15 years.

The Sixth Chakra Blend

The ingredients in this blend for the third eye are Peppermint, Nettle and Fennel.   I will give a brief outline of each of the herbs here.


This wonderful medicinal herb has been around a long, long time. We know that dried Peppermint leaves were found in several Egyptian pyramids dating back to 1,000 BC.  Peppermint offers support to the digestive system.

On an emotional level the stomach area is associated with the third chakra or our power center where we digest our thoughts and emotions as well as our food.   Because our thoughts and emotions fuel our action when we balance this chakra we find we can step more into our power pursuing our goals with focused action.

In relation to the sixth chakra we want to be able to see the truth around our stories.   If we are triggered into what we may perceive as a negative emotion by our feelings which leads to negative action, we may want to look closely at our story to see the real picture or the essence of what the trigger is.   So this wonderful herb supports us in the sixth chakra so that we can become more focused at an intuitive level. This has the ripple effect of when we open the sixth chakra to see our truth around our stories we can then change the stories to better serve us.


The wonderful herb of nettle that causes kids and adults to scamper contains wonderful benefits when used in food, drinks and skin care!!!   Nettle is an anti-inflammatory and an astringent. It contains an ingredient called phenol, which is a powerful antioxidant and supports against free radicals.

It is also full of iron and so is associated with supporting the symptoms of anemia.   Iron is so important for our overall health and wellness.

When we have the strength that comes from a healthy body we have the energy to fulfill what we desire in our life.


Fennel is another wonderful herb known for its toxic cleaning ability. It combines well in this tea with Peppermint.

On an emotional level it supports us if we have lost touch with listening to our own body’s intelligence, which is what the sixth chakra is all about. Learning to get back in touch with what our body is telling us and not letting the judgments or opinions of others be the only influences in our lives.

It can also help us restore our appetite for life and so again is great for supporting us in pulling back the veil of illusion we may be stuck in and looking at the world from a higher perspective, which will reveal the truth and wonder of what we have.


The wonderful liquorice plant was named by Hippocrates as “glukos riza” or sweet root and this is one of the most popular ways to use liquorice, as a natural sweetener.

However this wonderful plant has many other wonderful benefits including anti-viral properties. Its use against upper respiratory tract infections dates back to ancient Egypt.   It is a demulcent and soothes mucous irritations and is used widely in Ayurvedic cooking.

The addition of liquorice in this sixth chakra tea blend certainly adds a lovely sweetness.

This blend of herbs to support our sixth chakra is a truly wonderful combination of flavours to enhance and energise.   The herbs interact with our body’s own intelligence and bring us clarity and focus.

The only question left for me now is …. which blend to try next!

For more details on the chakra teas you can visit the Solaris web site here.

For details on crystals to use with chakras check out a guest blog by Jessica from Amber here.

Until next time ….. keep the faith,

Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Author, Empowerment and Assertive Coach, Energy Worker and Soul Care Practitioner.