Everyone handles grief in a different manner. Sometimes people grieve for months or years and others close to them cannot understand or comprehend this. Grief like everything else is an energy blockage that is felt and stored in a person’s energy body. There is no right or wrong amount of time to grieve but sometimes a person may need help to get on with their lives, never forgetting whom they have lost but just allowing them freedom to get on with their life. Energy work like EFT is a wonderful tool for allowing someone an opportunity to release blockages in relation to grief. It is very important to understand that the person’s memories of the deceased are not wiped out, a fear many have of clearing such blockages. On the contrary it allows people to look back and speak lovingly about a deceased relative or friend, if opens up a path to healing on a holistic level at the body, mind, spirit and energy body level. It serves no one any good making themselves ill with grief, or not getting on with their own life. If a person carries guilt, guilt that they should have done more, guilt for not telling the deceased how they felt, these again are mere energy blockages, blockages that can be unblocked and allow peace to return to one’s life.
It is hard to watch a loved one being sick and dying. The feeling of powerlessness at not being able to help. Rest assured if you do what you can for that person to make their life as pleasant as possible you are doing all that could ever be asked of you. No one is an island we all need help and support, we need to allow others to help us in the letting go process. It is not a sign of weakness.
Always offer a listening ear, a no judgment ear for someone who is grieving with no offers of what could be or should be done. That can be such a breath of fresh air for a grieving person – no judgments, no advice – just someone to listen.
Life goes on and so it does whether we choose to move along with it or not. It is hard for some to move on without a loved one, a soul mate or a friend but it is not impossible. The tide ebbs and flows, the seasons come and go, a life that seems so precious and impossible to live without comes and goes too. To best serve ourselves and the loved ones that rely on us we are best to move on too, when the time is right for us, the time when we know holding ourselves stuck in time no longer serves us or anyone around us. Free yourself not of your memories but from your fears of moving on .. you and those around you who rely on you deserve it.
Until next time … keep the faith,
Dolores Andrew-Gavin, EFT Master Practitioner, Quantum Touch and Reiki Therapist