What is doing it all anyway? Whose made the rules? You.
It is not selfish to sometimes say “No”. When we feel bogged down with thinking we have to do it all we don’t act from a loving state. Remember there is only one of you, you have a light to shine and don’t allow that light to dim. When we extend an act of kindness to someone we shine our light for sure, for this is a loving gesture accompanied by positive energy. Positive energy makes our energy flow smoothly, we feel and act in a positive way.
The reverse of this of course is stress feeling like we have to or we should do. If there is one word in the English language that I could eliminate it would be “should”, it carries negative vibes, it says we did something wrong, it gets our energy body all charged up “I should have done better”, “I should have …” imagine saying instead “I could have done better, maybe next time I will” .. about a thousand times more positive don’t you think? Even saying the words makes you take a deep breath and breath out the negative …
Sometimes we feel like to have to do it all because no one else can do it right … up to your perfect standard .. what un-necessary pressure! The old saying of “People treat you how you treat yourself” is so right. I see it with my own kids. Children pick up at an earlier stage their social skills from their parents, their teachers, whomever they are around. If a child grows up in a nurturing home with parents who look after themselves as well as them they grow up with a sense of respect for themselves as well.
Unfortunately if you allow yourself to be a doormat you WILL get walked upon. Because once again … it’s what your sending out there. Be strong with your desires, your needs and your time. Do what you can and politely say “No” to the rest. People will respect you for it .. and that’s a fact.
Until next time …. keep the faith,
Dolores Andrew-Gavin Meridian Energy Therapist (EFT), Quantum Touch and Reiki Practitioner